Find yourself wondering
"Do I belong here?"
i don't know a single person that can't check at least one box.
Welcome. Let's talk about it.
we're not cool. we just show up.
Where to start?
Small actions add up.
Small actions allow for consistency.
3. Decide how you communicate best
Set some boundaries. Decide what works best for you -- Text, Facetime, In-Person, Phone Calls, DM -- whatever it is. Start communicating that. "Hey! I wanna chat, but texting is easier during the day." or "I love when you send me that video, but can we not then start talking in the DMs. I'll won't miss your message if it's in my texts."
4. Pick one goal.
You made some space above. Now decide on a manageable goal -- One hangout a month? 15 mins to catch up on texts a day? One facetime a month? Pick a small goal. Very small. Probably just a singular one, so you can stay accountable to yourself. After you've done it multiple times in a row, you can add another small goal.
6. "What is the path of least resistance?"
Do you want to meet someone new? Ask yourself, "What is the path of least resistance?" Probably to try and meet someone in a place you already go -- the park, work, through a friend. Try and find the simplest, quickest, lowest impact solutoin to your problem. No more saying "I want to talk to my friend, but I need two hours to catch up." Nope. Decide that 15 minutes while you drive to work is enough.