Some lines from The Connection Reset kept showing up in my own head long after I wrote them. So I turned four of them into phone wallpapers — the kind of thing you actually want staring back at you every time you unlock your phone, instead of a photo you forgot to change eight months ago.
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Once you start seeing it, you can’t unsee it.
This is the whole thesis of The Connection Reset in one line.
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You’re allowed to want what you want.
Straight from Day 3 of The Connection Reset — the day most people tell me hit them the hardest.
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The friend you’re looking for is looking for you too. Go say hi.
A nudge for the next time you’re standing next to someone you keep meaning to talk to.
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Slowing down to appreciate
A running list of the small moments that count as connection — the song that reminds you of someone, the friend who just knew, letting a nice thing just be nice.
Final thoughts
I made these for myself first, honestly. There’s something about seeing “once you start seeing it, you can’t unsee it” every time I unlock my phone that keeps me doing the actual work of noticing connection instead of just nodding along with the idea of it.
Download whichever ones hit. Then go say hi to somebody.
