Formal Community – The “Your People” Framework

Formal Community - The “Your People” Framework

Formal communities play a crucial role in our lives, they are places that people come together, work towards common goals, share in common interests, and connect. When participating in a formal community, we enjoy opportunities for personal growth, learning, and social connections. In this article, we will explore the significance of formal communities in our lives and why they are important but often underappreciated groups that contribute to our overall well-being.

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What are Formal Communities?

Formal communities refer to groups or organizations that individuals actively participate in to further their goals or immerse themselves in a particular interest. Formal community can also refer to the physical location where a group lives.  These communities often have a structured setup, including leadership teams, scheduled meetings, and rules and regulations. By joining a formal community, individuals can meet new people and find shared meaning in pursuing a common objective.

Benefits of Formal Communities

Formal communities offer several benefits that enhance our lives:

  1. Social Satisfaction: Working together with others towards a shared goal brings a sense of social fulfillment and accomplishment.
  2. Opportunities to Meet New People: Formal communities provide an excellent platform to meet like-minded individuals with similar interests and passions.
  3. Driving Social Progress: Many formal communities work towards causes that contribute to the advancement of society as a whole.
  4. Immediate Shared Interests: The mission and shared goals of a formal community create an immediate connection and make it easier to strike up conversations with fellow members.
  5. Structured Environment: Formal communities often have established structures, removing the burden of scheduling or initiating activities, making it easier for individuals to participate and engage.
  6. Shared Passion: Connecting with others who are equally passionate about a shared interest brings a sense of joy and belonging.
  7. Proximity and Connection: The consistent meeting schedules of formal communities create proximity among members, facilitating deeper connections and friendships.

Examples of Formal Communities

Formal communities can be found in various areas of our lives. Here are some common examples:


  • Schools
  • Colleges
  • Universities


  • Professional organizations
  • Networking groups
  • Industry associations

Religion and Faith:

  • Places of worship
  • Religious organizations

Health and Fitness:

  • Fitness clubs
  • Running clubs
  • Sports leagues

Community Engagement:

  • Non-profit organizations
  • Homeowners associations
  • Parent-Teacher Associations (PTA)
  • Our local governments
  • Our neighbors

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Developing Roots within Formal Communities

Within formal communities, different roots contribute to the development of connections and shared experiences:

  1. Shared Experience Roots:  The primary root within formal communities is shared experiences. Regular interactions and engagement through the community’s structure foster strong bonds among members.
  2. Emotional Intimacy Roots: Emotional intimacy roots may be limited in formal communities unless the group focuses on sensitive topics such as grief support or substance abuse. In contrast, emotional intimacy roots are more prevalent within our family of origin.
  3. Story Roots: While individual story roots may not be significant, a sense of belonging and understanding can develop at a collective level. The belief that “I belong here” or “These people understand me” forms a story root within the group.

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The Importance of Investing in Relationships

While formal communities offer opportunities for personal growth and shared interests, it’s essential to invest in relationships within these groups. Merely participating in activities without connecting with others can lead to a sense of loneliness, despite being surrounded by people. To fulfill our relationship needs, it’s crucial to engage with fellow members, initiate conversations, and foster meaningful connections.

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Don’t Forget about Virtual Formal Communities

In today’s digital age, virtual formal communities have become increasingly relevant and impactful. Although this article has primarily focused on in-person formal communities, it’s important to acknowledge the significance of virtual formal communities as well. Virtual shared experience roots can be just as powerful as in-person connections. 

Virtual formal communities are also vital for marginalized communities such as nuerodivergent people, the disabled community, and chronic illness community.

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Formal communities provide valuable platforms for personal growth, social connections, and shared goals. By actively participating in these communities, we can meet new people, expand our horizons, and contribute to causes that matter to us. Remember, investing in relationships within formal communities is essential to truly experience the sense of belonging and well-being they offer. Take the next step and explore the power of formal communities in your life.

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Hi. I'm Alex.

I'm just a gal who cares deeply about community + friendship. Why? Well, I didn't have a healthy support system growing up.

So I built one... out of friends. I believe a healthy support system is the ultimate self-care.

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